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By Ron Ross As our plane landed in Lusaka Zambia (it was 1967), I said to my young wife, "I sure hope someone will be there to greet us." Three weeks before our departure I sent a letter to the missionaries in Zambia to give them the details of our arrival. Back then, there was no way to find out if they had received it as mail to central Africa was not reliable. When we stepped off the plane into the warm African sun, I heard a loud whistle followed by, "Ron and Amy! Ron and Amy! Ron and Amy!" I looked up and saw on the observation deck of the terminal four people enthusiastically wave as they yelled our names! Relief! They had gotten my letter. All was well. Hope fulfilled. Hope doesn't care much about the way things are; hope focuses on possibilities, the way things could be or should be. The great preacher, Henry Ward Beecher said, "Hope is sweet-minded and sweet-eyed. It draws pictures; it weaves fancies; it fills the future with delig...

 The p hysical differences between a man and woman are obvious. But that's not what I want to talk about. Rather, consider the  different things a man and woman, a husband and wife bring into a marriage: ·       A woman brings pots and pans, a man brings toolboxes and ladders. ·       A man brings boxers and britches and a woman brings high heels and fine lingerie. ·       A woman brings makeup and perfume, a man brings unused bottles of after-shave and some well-worn tee shirts. ·       A woman brings lace curtains and candles into the home and a man brings muddy boots and fishing gear. ·       A woman brings a min-van and a man brings a 4 X 4. These different gifts you bring to your relationship will either strengthen your marriage or weaken it. But all of them serve to give to each other a different view of the world. The woman...

By Ron Ross Or the title could be:   “ Hold on to that lady or she might get away.” Hold the door Be courteous. Be polite. Say please and thank you. Be tidy (don’t be a slob). Be complimentary. Hold her hand Touch her in non-sexual ways. Put your arm around her in church or the movie theater. Hold her hand when you walk across the parking lot. Snuggle with her while watching TV. Give up the lazy-boy chair for the couch. Hold her in high esteem If you’re the hero – she’s the damsel in distress. If you’re the king, she’s the queen. Then treat her like a queen. Do you want her to be your lover, then tell her she’s beautiful. Do you want her to be a lady, then treat her like a lady. Do you want her to respect you, then respect her. One more thing: NEVER make your wife the butt of a joke wife without her permission. NEVER. Need some more help? Read 20 Things That Make a Man a Gentleman! https://www.thegentlemansjournal.com/20-things-make-man-g...

The ABC of Husband Pleasing Three Itty bitty easy peasy things women can do to make their man happy! By Dr. Ronald D. S. Ross A: Appreciate – tell him “Thank you for washing my car! I love it when you do that.” “Thank you for working so hard to provide for us.” “Thank you for taking care of the kids – I know how hard that is for you to do.” Thank him in front of other people – especially your children and parents. “Thank you” is one of the first things we teach our children to say but one of the last things we think to say to our mates. B: Brag – This is taking appreciation one step further. Men need affirmations. Tell them they are good, they are strong; they are smart, they are heroic. All men want to be heroes. Ask any little kid what he wants to be when he grows up, and many of them will say, FIREMAN or POLICEMAN. No kid ever says, “I want to grow up and be a real nice man.” So make him feel like a hero, and he will be your hero. Make him feel like Sup...

By Ron Ross Have some fun and draw closer together by learning about your mate! 1. Who was your favorite and least favorite school teacher? 2. Tell me something about your siblings or your parents that I don’t know. 3. What one little thing has been irritating you lately? 4. Who is your favorite relative and why? 5. What one thing do I do that you really like? 6. What one thing would you like me to do to improve our relationship? 7. Have you ever been heartbroken? 8. What is something that you would really like to become an expert at? 9. What unusual place in the world would you like to visit? 10. If today was your birthday and you were about to blow out the candles on your cake, what would you wish for? ©2018 Heartfelt Marriage

Two children romp around in the living room and knock over a table. The vase of flowers on the table hits the wall as the table tips. Flowers fall, water spills, vase breaks. The fun is over, the laughter halts, and mother enters, “What in the world happened?” “It’s not my fault!” brother claims. “He pushed me, it’s his fault!” sister claims. It’s called the blame game. A childish game, right? Yes it is, but it’s an adult game too, you know. Excusing self for bad mistakes started early. God hunted down Adam in the Garden of Eden to ask him about the meal he ate that was made with the fruit of that special tree. “Did you eat that fruit?” God asks. Adam knew the answer but blamed God. “It’s not my fault,” he said. “That woman you gave me fed it to me! It’s HER fault.” Eve took the lead from Adam and blamed her actions on the serpent. “It’s not my fault,” Eve declared, “the serpent lied to me! It’s HIS fault.” Every husband and wife since Adam and Eve has pl...