Your Wedding was an Event – Your Marriage is a Lifetime

Dr. Ronald D. S. Ross

The day you were married is burned on your memory. You can recall every
moment of it with little effort and hopefully, a lot of joy. Your engagement, the marriage ceremony, and your honeymoon were something you worked hard to achieve.

The differences between a wedding and a marriage are significant; a wedding lasts a day but a marriage lasts day after day after day. Ideally, it should last a lifetime.

You thought getting through your wedding day was something significant, and it was. However, getting through the first year is/was even tougher. Make it through the fifth year of marriage and the odds of you staying married for the rest of your life increase exponentially. To reach the goal of a lifetime happy marriage will take all the love and fortitude and forgiveness you have.

When my wife and I said, “I promise … until death do us part,” we meant it. Every day of our 52+ years together demanded sacrifice, compromise, and pardon. The journey was sometimes long and confusing, and sometimes it was heaven on earth. Sometimes we fought like cats and dogs and sometimes we made love like newlyweds. Sometimes we argued, sometimes we agreed, but always, we stuck together until we were parted by death.

“Was it worth it?” you may ask.

My answer, “Oh yes, oh yes, oh yes.”

It can be the same for you. No, really, it can. Any two intelligent people who decide to live together in love, peace and respect will figure out how to do just that.

So decide.

Then together, figure out how to do it.

“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” – Anthony Robbins

Until next time, I remain
Yours for a happier marriage,


Dr. Ron Ross

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